There is a new phrase, new medical terminology called, "PULLING A DORFMAN" It's not a good thing. It's a verbal monument to a narcissistic choice made in a medical crisis.
I pitted some cherries for James. He hasn't moved all morning. He looks like he is in pain. I gave him an Advil.
He has medical appointments this week. Last week his primary care doctor, Dr. Curls said to take James to the dentist to see if that was why his face looked swollen on one side. She said to remind the dentist that he didn't have to fix anything, just let us know what was going on. We NEED to know what is going on.
Dr. Dorfman has been cleaning James' teeth since 2012. On James' last visit he only got a cleaning, no X-rays and no exam by the doctor. We were on the way to James' scheduled cleaning at Dr. Dorfman's on Friday when Dorfman's office called and said not to bring James in. That was such a shock that when OCWEN called to report their progress on restoring my credit by reversing the pulling of my perfectly paid home loan and putting it back on Equifax and OCWEN asked if I was available on Wednesday, I said yes, early in the morning because mid-morning the social worker who "PULLED A DORFMAN" was coming to take the annual update on James' medical conditions and what medications he is taking. She had also canceled James' appointment the same day of the appointment on March 24, 2016. James was bedridden on that day like he is today, May 9, 2016.
PULLED A DORFMAN is when a professional person cancels an appointment while you are en route to said appointment. A DORFMAN is usually pulled on a person of modest income who always pays their bills on time but has to get a loan or fundraise for expensive surgeries. You pull a DORFMAN on a patient who always pays for dental cleanings and X-rays the day they happen but can't shell out $64,000. without batting an eye. The sicker a financially ungifted patient suddenly becomes, the more entitled such professionals feel to PULL A DORFMAN. As previously mentioned, months ago after James had a dental cleaning and got into the elevator with Dr. Dorfman, Dr. Dorfman looked like he had swallowed a big bumble bee. The mere sight of James was too upsetting to Dr. Dorfman.
I need to say this again: I always paid for James' dental cleanings the day of the cleanings. I paid in full with my CareCredit Card from Synchrony Bank. James was not a charity patient. On Friday Dr. Dorfman's office refused to examine James, refused to let me pay with my CareCredit card with the $3000.00 credit limit. The cost of the exam would have been covered by that limit. James' primary care doctor just wanted to know if James had a dental infection causing his face to look the way it did, the way it does now.
In life, if we are what we do and the things we do are big enough to leave a big impression on others, sometimes monuments to our deeds get named after us.
If someone tells you that you have PULLED A DORFMAN, you probably hurt someone. You probably disrespected them. You probably behaved in a narcissistic way, thinking more of your own personal distaste over having to look at an ill person who could only afford preventative care than of what that person really needed from you, which was much less than you fear.
If Dr. Dorfman let James have an exam on Friday, I would have paid for it in full on Friday and Dr. Curls would know what step to take next to help James.
In Dr. Dorfman's mind there were fears great enough to warrant his PULLING A DORFMAN on James on Friday. Stop the car. Turn around. You shall not pass. Go away. Don't bother to come in, your appointment is canceled. Not going to tell you if you have an infection or not. It doesn't matter that you always pay your bill on time. Go. Go on now. Git.
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